
Through my work as a relationship coach, I’ve had the honor and privilege of working with incredibly strong, courageous, and inspiring women. Today, I want to share with you the story of one of those women.
I’m so honored to share this story with you because it's so much more than a success story--- it’s a story of hope for anyone who feels lost in their marriage and wonders if they can still save it.
Sabrina’s willingness to share her journey is a gift to every wife who longs for love, passion, and connection but feels unsure how to get there. Her courage and generosity in opening up about her transformation remind us of what’s possible when we commit to growth and support each other. I hope her story inspires you as much as it has inspired me.
How one wife saved her marriage— and you can too: rebuilding love with proven intimacy skills
A marriage in crisis
Sabrina’s story begins in the shadows of her darkest days in her marriage. Each morning, as the sunlight filtered through the blinds, her first thought was, “Another morning in hell.” Her marriage had become a battlefield.
Her husband’s struggles with addiction loomed over their family, creating a storm of aggression and dismissiveness that neither could navigate. Healthy communication was nonexistent, and the tension at home was so pervasive that even their oldest daughter sought refuge in her room, hiding from the chaos.
Sabrina found herself constantly walking on eggshells, coaching her children to avoid their father’s wrath. “Hurry up and pick that up before he comes down here,” she’d urge her daughter, her voice edged with fear. Life felt like an endless series of crises, and survival mode became her default.
When a mental health intervention finally forced a turning point, she realized she couldn’t keep living this way. Her husband sought professional help, and so did she. Therapy and the 12-step program gave her glimpses of relief, but something was still missing—the missing pieces to rebuilding not just her marriage, but herself.
The breaking point
The breaking point came one day after a call with a family attorney to discuss divorce. “What would it look like to end this marriage?” she had asked, her voice heavy with defeat.
After hanging up, she crumpled to the floor of her office, tears streaming uncontrollably. “I felt destroyed,” she recalls. “If it weren’t for my kids needing dinner and school pickups, I’d have stayed there until the sun went down.” The weight of her pain felt insurmountable, yet deep inside, a small, flickering hope refused to die. That hope led her to discover the Six Intimacy Skills and ultimately to a discovery call with me.
During our first conversation, Sabrina confessed that while she was using the intimacy skills she’d read about in the book The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle, she couldn’t quite grasp how to transform her inner world. She said, “I knew I needed an inner shift to reflect outwardly in my marriage, but I didn’t know how to make it happen.” Her willingness to embrace this as a lifestyle change, rather than a quick fix, was the first step in her transformation.
The journey of transformation
Together, we embarked on a journey that asked Sabrina to dig deep. At first, she struggled with her mindset. Years of taking control and doing everything herself had left her feeling like the only adult in the relationship, which bred resentment. “I was rushing in to handle everything because I wanted it done a certain way,” she admitted. “I didn’t even realize how much I was controlling and stifling him.”
Through coaching, Sabrina learned to release control and express her desires in a way that inspired rather than demanded. She practiced saying, “I would love…” and discovered how transformative those words could be. “It was like magic,” she shared. But the real breakthrough came when she embraced vulnerability and fully leaned into the skills.
Sabrina’s turning point came when she committed to jumping off the fence, and fully committed to the process. Until then, she had approached her marriage cautiously, half-expecting failure. “I realized my husband could feel me still judging and questioning if he was good enough,” she said.
Inspired by the community of women in the Magnetic Wife Haven program, Sabrina decided to go all in. “I pinned all my hopes and dreams on this working out,” she recalled.
A marriage renewed
The transformation was profound. Sabrina’s husband, once withdrawn and unreliable, began stepping up in ways she never thought possible. He started organizing household tasks, taking initiative, and showing up with a calm, sober presence. “One day, I came home to find the kitchen counters organized by height,” Sabrina laughed. “It was such a simple thing, but it spoke volumes about how much he cared.”
Beyond the practical changes, Sabrina experienced an emotional reconnection with her husband. They rebuilt trust and intimacy, creating a marriage filled with laughter, affection, and mutual respect. The physical side of their relationship, once a source of frustration, blossomed into a vibrant expression of their renewed bond.
Today, Sabrina describes her marriage as peaceful, loving, and supportive. “We don’t fight anymore because there’s no need,” she said, beaming. “I feel cherished and cared for. My husband is my hero, and I see now that he’s always been that man—I just didn’t know how to let him be.”
Practical steps for your own transformation
Sabrina’s journey offers hope and guidance for any wife longing to rekindle connection and love in her marriage. These six practical steps, inspired by her transformation, can help you make meaningful changes:
Release Control: Take a moment to reflect on where you might be micromanaging or stepping in unnecessarily. Are there areas where you could step back and trust your partner to handle things? Creating this space not only gives your partner the opportunity to rise but also signals respect and trust. For example, instead of jumping in to fix something, consider asking, “what am I so afraid of, and is controlling the outcome worth the intimacy it will cost me?” If it's not, then truly let go of the outcome.
Express Desires in a Way That Inspires: Imagine how different it feels to hear “I would love to try out that new restaurant in town” instead of “You never take me out anywhere.” Practice expressing what you desire using this gentle and inviting language. By framing your desires in terms of what you’d love, you inspire cooperation and affection rather than triggering defensiveness.
Embrace Vulnerability: Vulnerability is the bridge to trust and connection. Start small by sharing a heartfelt feeling, like saying, “I miss you,” or "ouch" when something hurts your feelings, or “I felt so cared for when you helped with dinner yesterday.” Though it can feel scary to open up, it allows your husband to truly see and connect with you. Remember, vulnerability is an act of courage, and it fosters intimacy.
Celebrate the Wins: Transformation begins with noticing even the smallest positive changes—both in your marriage and in yourself. Did your husband give you a warm hug before bed? Does he work hard to provide for your family? Thank him for whatever he's doing right!
But don’t stop there—celebrate your own wins too. For example, you might think, “I’m so proud of myself for letting go of control today and trusting my husband to handle bedtime his way.” Or “I took a big step by sharing how I was feeling, and I’m proud of my courage to be vulnerable.”
When you celebrate both your husband's efforts and your own progress, you create momentum and build confidence. Focusing on the good—no matter how small—strengthens your connection, inspires more positive changes, and reminds you of your power to shape your marriage.
Commit Fully: Real change requires going all in. Half-measures keep you on the fence, while full commitment allows for breakthroughs. This means trusting the process even when it feels challenging or when results aren’t immediate. Ask yourself: “What would it look like to give this my all?” Choose faith over fear, because that's the place where miracles can happen.
Seek Support: You don’t have to figure this out alone. Whether through coaching or a supportive community, having guidance can fast-track your transformation. Sabrina’s success was magnified because she sought out support and consistently practiced the Six Intimacy Skills. Reaching out isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of strength and a step toward the marriage you deserve.
Your journey starts here
Sabrina’s inspiring story is proof that transformation is possible with the right tools, mindset, and support. Whether you're just discovering the Intimacy Skills or looking to deepen your practice, there’s a next step for you:
If you’re new to the Intimacy Skills, start with The Empowered Wife Workshop, where you’ll learn proven actionable steps to restore respect, love, and connection in your marriage.
If you know the skills but struggle with consistency, apply to join Magnetic Wife Haven for sisterhood, group coaching, and the ongoing support you need to thrive.
If you feel stuck and overwhelmed navigating the challenges in your marriage, explore private coaching for personalized guidance and one-on-one support.
Your marriage can be a source of joy, connection, and intimacy. Let’s get you feeling cherished!
Xo,
Laura Amador
Laura Doyle Certified Relationship and Intimacy Skills Expert
Watch Sabrina's heartfelt interview and hear her story in her own words below.
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