10 Must-Ask Questions Before Hiring a Relationship Coach

If you’re considering working with a relationship coach, it’s important to ask questions that will help you understand their approach, ensure they are a good fit for your needs, and understand how they will help you achieve your goals. If you’re new to coaching, you might not know what questions to ask. But don’t worry, that’s exactly why I’ve written this article. As a relationship coach myself, here are some questions to consider, along with explanations for why they are important to ask before hiring a relationship coach.

10 Must-Ask Questions Before Hiring a Relationship Coach

1. What is your coaching philosophy and approach to marriage coaching?

Why this is important: 

A coach’s philosophy reflects their core beliefs and their approach to relationships. This can have a big impact on whether or not you feel aligned with their style. Do they emphasize personal responsibility or shared efforts? Do they have a solution-focused approach, or do they focus more on exploration and healing?

My coaching philosophy:

In my work as a relationship coach, I believe that the foundation of a better world begins at home. Healthy, loving, and peaceful relationships create strong families, and through these connections, we pass down vital social and emotional skills to our children. As wives, we have an incredible opportunity to shape the tone of our homes and build legacies of love, compassion, and strength for future generations. This is why I’m so passionate about helping women create the marriages they truly desire.

At the heart of my coaching philosophy is the simple truth that we cannot control anyone else—only ourselves. Real wisdom comes from embracing this, and my approach focuses on empowering wives to shift their mindset and actions in ways that foster deeper connection with their husbands. I guide women to cultivate confidence, peace, and joy within themselves, which naturally draws their husbands closer, making them feel adored and desired.

My coaching is all about you—the wife—and how you can remove the barriers that keep you from the marriage you envision. It’s not about trying to fix or change your husband. Instead, it’s about equipping you with the tools to set a new, joyful, and effortless tone in your relationship. The results are often transformational, bringing back the passion, connection, and intimacy that may have once felt out of reach.

2. Do you specialize in working with people with similar issues to mine?

Why this is important:

You want a coach who has specific experience in coaching people with similar issues to yours. They are likely to have more experience, strategies, and insights that can be tailored to your situation. This is important, as you want someone who has a deep understanding of the healing and rebuilding that needs to happen so you can move forward and see real results in your relationship.

My specialization:

In my case, I specialize in helping wives who feel disconnected, overwhelmed, or unappreciated in their marriages. I’ve guided women through some of the most challenging and painful seasons in their relationships, including healing and rebuilding trust after an affair, transitioning back together after a separation, stopping a divorce, and rekindling intimacy in sexless marriages.

My approach empowers women to reclaim their sense of confidence, joy, and fulfillment, helping them transform their marriage into one that is vibrant, loving, and supportive.

3. What outcomes do you help your clients achieve, and what does success look like in your program?

Why this is important:

Understanding the potential outcomes of a coaching program can give you clarity on whether the coach’s vision aligns with your own. You should feel confident that their approach will help you reach the goals you have for your marriage.

The outcomes I help my clients achieve:

In my coaching program, success looks like a woman who feels empowered and confident in expressing her desires, knowing that her voice matters in her marriage. She feels secure and relaxed because she trusts her husband and knows that he genuinely wants to make her happy. She experiences more peace in her marriage because she’s focused on cultivating joy and connection in a way that naturally draws her husband closer. She prioritizes her own joy, well-being, and relaxation, and in doing so, she naturally inspires her husband to step up and be her hero.

Ultimately, success is a woman who genuinely admires, loves, and respects the man she married, and who feels safe enough to open her heart, embrace vulnerability, and foster deep emotional intimacy. Her energy is magnetic, drawing her husband toward her with a connection that feels effortless, loving, and strong. This woman experiences a marriage filled with passion, mutual respect, and the fulfillment she’s always desired.

4. What specific tools or methods do you use to help couples resolve conflict or improve intimacy?

Why this is important:

Knowing the specific tools (e.g., communication techniques, intimacy exercises, emotional regulation strategies) helps you assess whether their methods match what you feel comfortable working with. Also, you want to make sure that the method they use has been tried and tested for proven success.

The method I use:

In my coaching, I teach the Six Intimacy Skills, which I was trained in and certified by my mentor, the world-renowned Laura Doyle. This approach has been highly effective, helping over 150,000 women worldwide to transform their relationships. I’ve seen countless women transform their marriages using these skills, and they form the foundation of the methods I use with my clients.

The Six Intimacy Skills focus on practical steps that empower wives to cultivate deeper connection, intimacy, and respect in their marriages. Through this method, I help women restore trust, reignite passion, and create a harmonious, loving partnership. The approach is simple yet powerful, and it’s been used with great success to resolve conflict and improve intimacy in countless marriages.

To learn more about the Six Intimacy Skills and try them out for yourself, download my free guide: 5 Steps To Reignite Connection In Your Marriage

5. How do you handle situations where one partner is less engaged in the coaching process?

Why this is important:

It’s common for one partner to be less interested in coaching at the outset, so it’s important to know how a coach will handle this dynamic. Will they work with you alone, or do they require participation from both partners? Their response can show whether they have strategies to help you create change on your own or how to encourage a partner’s involvement over time.

How I handle this:

In my coaching practice, I work exclusively with wives. I guide women to focus on their own growth and transformation, which leads to profound changes in their relationships without needing to involve their husbands directly. I encourage my clients to give themselves the privacy to work on these new skills without sharing the details with their husbands.

This approach allows them the freedom to experiment, without feeling pressure or expectations from their partner. The result is a natural spark that reignites the relationship organically, making it more fun, playful, and passionate. Often, the shift in energy and connection becomes so undeniable that their husbands are drawn closer, without even realizing a formal process is happening.

6. How do you ensure that the changes are long-lasting and sustainable?

Why this is important:

It’s important to know whether a coach focuses on long-term change versus quick fixes. You want to make sure that the strategies you learn will continue to benefit your marriage long after the coaching sessions have ended. This will affect the sustainability of improvements in your marriage.

How I ensure lasting change:

To help ensure that the changes my clients experience are long-lasting, I offer ongoing support through my membership community, Magnetic Wife Haven. This allows women to stay connected to the principles and tools they’ve learned, and to continue growing and evolving in their relationships.

In this community, members receive ongoing support, personalized coaching, and encouragement from others who are on the same journey. We offer resources, trainings, and opportunities for women to continue deepening their mastery of the Six Intimacy Skills. By staying connected and actively engaged with the community, these positive changes become a permanent part of their lives, helping them maintain a loving, passionate marriage for the long term.

7. How long does your coaching program last, and what does a typical session or program look like?

Why this is important:

You’ll want to know how much time you’re committing to, and whether the coach’s program structure fits into your life. Some coaches offer short-term programs, while others focus on longer, more comprehensive engagements that allow for deeper transformation.

My program structure:

I typically work with clients over a six-month period, which allows enough time for deep transformation. In the beginning, we meet weekly to establish a strong foundation with the Six Intimacy Skills. As clients become more comfortable, we may move to bi-weekly sessions. Each session focuses on practical tools and strategies, with plenty of space for reflection, sharing, and personalized guidance based on each client’s unique situation.

A typical session focuses on creating the client's vision and applying the Six Intimacy Skills, customized to her unique situation. We’ll explore practical strategies for shifting the dynamic in her marriage, and I provide ongoing guidance and support. Like learning to ride a bike, the goal is to empower her to mastery of the intimacy skills so that, eventually, she can "kick off the training wheels" and feel confident and cherished in her marriage.

8. Can you share success stories or testimonials from past clients?

Why this is important:

Success stories offer real-life examples of how the coach has helped others in similar situations. It gives insight into their effectiveness and client satisfaction.

It’s one thing to hear about how a coach can transform a marriage, but it’s another to see it through the words of those who have experienced it firsthand. Real stories from past clients can help you understand the profound shifts that are possible in your relationship. These testimonials give you a glimpse into the results you might expect and the hope that, even in the most challenging situations, positive change is possible.

My client testimonials:

If you’d like to see examples of how my coaching has impacted other marriages, click here and scroll down to read testimonials from clients who have found renewed connection, intimacy, and peace in their relationships.

9. What is your pricing, and do you offer payment plans?

Why this is important: 

When it comes to choosing a relationship coach, it’s important to feel confident that the investment will fit into your budget while also reflecting the value of the transformation you're seeking. Some coaches take a single payment in full while others offer payment plans to make long-term support more accessible.

Many relationship coaches offer a free consultation as a standard practice, and for good reason. This initial meeting provides an invaluable opportunity for the coach to understand the unique challenges within the relationship and the specific goals of the client. By engaging in this conversation, the coach can assess how they can best support the client on their journey toward a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.

This personalized assessment allows the coach to recommend the most appropriate services and develop a customized plan tailored to the client’s needs. Consequently, discussing pricing during this consultation ensures that clients receive a clear understanding of the investment required to achieve their desired outcomes, making it a logical and beneficial step in the coaching process.

My Answer: 

I understand that financial considerations are an important part of this decision. That's why I offer a complementary relationship assessment to discuss your unique situation and how I can support you. During this initial consultation, we’ll also discuss pricing options, including any available payment plans, so you can feel clear and confident about the investment required to achieve your desired outcomes.

10. Do you offer a free consultation?

Why this is important: 

Before committing to a relationship coach, it’s essential to ask if they offer a free consultation. This initial meeting gives you the chance to experience the coach’s style, get a feel for how you’d work together, and see if there’s a connection. Trust and comfort are essential in coaching, especially when navigating sensitive areas of your relationship, so this meeting is a chance to build that foundation.

It’s your opportunity to ask questions, learn about the methods they use, and understand how progress is tracked. Plus, discussing pricing in this context ensures clarity about the investment required for your transformation.

My answer: 

Yes! During your free relationship assessment, I’ll listen to your specific challenges, explore your goals, and share how I can support you in achieving the loving, connected relationship you desire. You’ll leave with immediate clarity on what’s holding you back, clarity around what you want to change and create in your relationship, and a personalized plan for creating the marriage you’ve been dreaming of. Together, we’ll uncover what’s possible for your marriage and create a path forward that fills you with confidence and excitement for the future.

Taking the Next Step: Choosing the Right Coach for Your Marriage Transformation

Choosing the right relationship coach is a crucial decision that can have a lasting impact on your marriage and personal well-being. By asking these 10 important questions, you ensure that the coach you select is aligned with your goals, values, and needs. This process helps you feel confident in your choice and gives you the clarity to embark on a journey of transformation with the right support.

If you feel ready to take the next step toward creating the loving, intimate marriage you dream of, I’d love to offer you a free relationship assessment. In this gentle, personalized session, we’ll explore your unique situation, uncover meaningful insights, and discuss exactly how can help bring your vision to life. It’s a safe space to reflect and gain clarity on your next steps. If this feels like the right time for you, I warmly invite you to book your free assessment. I look forward to speaking with you!

Xo, Laura Amador